Perhaps the Hell of a Man Is Hidden Within Himself

Why is it that when sometimes we want something so much, it becomes difficult for us to achieve it? The closer we get to it, the further away it seems? What is the pattern here, what are we missing?

I believe that our instincts sometimes know what is best for us better than we do, even if we are not consciously aware of it. For example, when someone has been searching for a job for a long time and remains unemployed without understanding why, it causes him overthinking. These thoughts are often nonsense, as well as are about the answers were been looking in a wrong place. By not leading any destination, they also make a person suffer as like gnawing a person from inside. Perhaps there are another truth (broader) that need attention before finding a job, a truth that the person doesn't want to see at all. Finding a job, in this case, might not only fail to solve his problems but also could force him to confront truth he has been avoiding. In such cases, we face self-sabotage, which our mind cannot fully comprehend, and we continuously end up finding neither a job nor peace, don't we?

3 examples:

1. Saying "I am a positive person" and suppressing all negative feelings, as if they could never exist, and denying the need to sometimes cry or grieve, takes a person to a certain point, but not till the end or forever. Just as life is not made up entirely of negatives, it is also not made up entirely of positives. Here, the self-deception is excessively glorifying false positivity and stubbornly denying the existence of negativity at least to a certain degree in this life.

2. In another example, someone who sees happiness mainly or only in money might face a suffering like a hell for his soul by ending up being flooded with it, achieving his dream of having a lot of money. The closer he gets to his dream, the more he faces the painful truth that he has been deceiving and has not been sincere with himself. The bitter truth here is that his happiness does not actually come from having a lot of money, but from another source.
   

3. Or, for example, the hell for a person with a victim mentality is actually facing the truth that he is not always a victim. Conversely, isn't it a kind of hell for someone who truly is a victim of certain events but refuses to accept it, and then faces the reality that they were indeed a victim in those events?

In short, for a person, realizing one day that what they believed to be true up to a certain point turns out to be wrong is a kind of hell, an anguish to the human soul.

Metaphor here: Hell = suffering of a soul

Author: Cal Redback

Human primarily evades and postpones. There are moments when truth is not only just painful for a person but also it feels heavy to bear, which is why expressions like "let the time handle it" sometimes sounds as appropriate. It is true that everything has its own certain time to happen. Sometimes, it's not because of insufficient intellect but because of being not ready enough to accept the wider reality. Even if intellectually capable, when unprepared, a person cannot see what he look at or hear what he actually listens. He cannot accept the truth by facing himself.

No matter how much one tries to escape the pain, I don't believe avoidance is the solution. Intelligence serves a person only to a certain extent, and it can play tricks on him also  to a certain extent, but not forever. A deception has always a certain lifetime. Just as truth never disappears, it can never be ignored forever.

Simply put, a lie as well as self-deception is powerless against time. Lastly, I think the hell of a man is the moment they have to face the truth they can't admit to themselves. At first, they deny it, then they think about it, analyze it, and try to hide it in different ways. But these efforts only work for so long, and one day the truth comes out, hurting the person who tried to hide it. Many of us see this as a painful event, but some of us believe that facing the truth is a good thing. I mostly support the second view, but I also believe that it leads to better outcomes only in a natural way, when a person comes to this realization on their own.